Does God Wink At Us?


Sitting in the doctor’s office this week I saw a segment about When God Winks by SQuire Rushnell (yes his first name is spelled with a capital Q).

WHAT’S A GODWINK? A godwink is what some people would call a coincidence, an answered prayer, or simply an experience where you’d say, “Wow, what are the odds of that!”

What do godwinks mean?  Think about when you were a kid and someone you loved gave you a little wink across the dining room table…Mom or Dad or Grandma. You didn’t say “What do you mean by that?” You knew.  It meant: “Hey kid, I’m thinking about you right now.” That’s what a godwink is too: a message of reassurance from above, directly to you, out of six billion people on the planet, saying “Hey kid…I’m thinking of you! Keep the faith! You’re never alone.”

My husband and I have been trying to find a vehicle for me since we are sharing a four door pickup and the kids are starting to out grow it. I have a certain kind in mind and have found some pretty good choices. I am the type of person who gets really excited about something new. Of course the vehicle will NOT be new, but new to ME! When we found the first one we had made plans to leave one afternoon after I got off work to go look at it and possibly get it. However, I kept having an unsure feeling if this was the “right” one or not. I had several devotionals that talked about waiting on God’s timing, but still wasn’t sure if it was directed at the vehicle situation.  

So, I prayed.

I prayed that God would help me know if it was right, but for him to remember who I am and that if it’s a NO on this one that he needs to let it be sold when my husband calls to check on it or for my husband be the one to say we should wait. In all the excitement to get something “new” it’s hard for me to say no. So, that morning my husband lets me know that he checked on it and that it’s a 4WD and we don’t need that and thought we should wait. I took that as my answer!

We found another one online. He called and checked and it was already sold! Then we found one recently close by and I had planned to check on it after this doctor’s appointment where I saw the segment on Godwinks. After the appointment we went to eat and it took quiet a while since the place was extremely busy and trying to get three kids to pee in the potty there since we have been potty training this week. By the time we got to the dealership I was informed that they just sold it!! I saw this man who was now the proud owner and I immediately thought…well it’s not meant for me to have this one. That’s okay!

That same afternoon my husband found another one online, but was 3 1/2 hours away. It was difficult trying to figure out how we would be able to work out trying to go get it since it’s quiet a good distance and we’ve got other things going on as well. I missed reading the devotional the day of my appointment that talked about Are You Seeking the Right Stuff?, that next day’s devotional was How To Travel the Smooth Road of how we should “obey these signs that tell you to trust him and not worry. If you’ll pay attention to these signs, you’ll find it’s easy to stay on course. If you fail to heed the signs, you may notice that the road seems a little bumpier than usual.” I then decided to check out the next day’s devotional…the day we were going to try and make it work to go get this vehicle and it was Accept God’s Timing.

I got the message. The whole time I was still unsure about this one too and that was my confirmation. I told my husband we should wait. When I said out loud that I was okay with waiting, I immediately had a sense of peace about it.

Do I think God winks at us?

Of course! Just like I know as a parent what my children want and need, He knows even better about us. He knows our wants and needs. He wants what’s best for us.

Above all he KNOWS us!

I didn’t have to remind him of how I am about getting excited about things, because he knows! I just had to release that to him and he answered those prayers in what this author calls a Godwink. God is always looking out for us and sending us “winks” along the way to make sure we stay focused on what’s important…HIM. I have gotten so caught up in trying to find the right vehicle that I wasn’t spending time in the word and putting my focus where it needs to be.

Putting our priorities in order will lead us to the things that we need and want in HIS timing.

He is concerned about what concerns us. He has sent several Godwinks in this journey of finding the right vehicle. We need to have our hearts open to see the winks he sends our way. Their are no coincedences in my life, only winks from my heavenly father letting me know that HE’S GOT THIS!

He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who walk with integrity. He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to him. Then you will understand what is right, just and fair. Proverbs 2:7-9 NLT

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.  James 1:5-7 NLT

For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17 NLT

When has God winked at you?



And the winner is……?


Every day is a warfare. One that we are all a part of. Being a teacher and parent I often entertain the question of why it’s so hard for some to do what is asked of them. Why is it so hard to be obedient?

Then this morning, as I’m running some not so nice thoughts through in my head of what I would like to say to someone. The Lord gently nudges me and lets me know that I shouldn’t say those things. “But….what about this or that?” and he simply says to just be obedient and hold my tongue. To put others above myself regardless of what I think I deserve.

It’s not about me!

The every day battle we all seem to struggle with is selfishness. We come into this world with an innate sense of wanting everything to be about us. We can see it in our children when they play and interact with others. It’s all about them. Yes, we grow up and learn how to share and to put others first, but it’s not always easy.

When others don’t treat us with the respect we think we deserve we have a choice. We can be obedient to what the Word says or we can let it be about us. Sometimes I don’t always make the right choice and I end up having to make mends of the mess I’ve gotten myself into. It’s embarrassing and it puts into focus that it’s not all about me!

Obeying is better than saying, “I’m sorry.”

For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. He never sinned, nor ever deceived anyone. He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God. 1 Peter 2:21-23 NLT

So think clearly and exercise self-control. Look forward to the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world. So you must live as God’s obedient children. Don’t slip back into your old ways of living to satisfy your own desires. You didn’t know any better then. 1 Peter 1:13-14 NLT

When we choose to follow his Word our reward is great!

Oh, that you had listened to my commands! Then you would have had peace flowing like a gentle river and righteousness rolling over you like waves in the sea. Isaiah 48:18 NLT

And we can be sure that we know him if we obey his commandments. If someone claims, “I know God,” but doesn’t obey God’s commandments, that person is a liar and is not living in the truth. But those who obey God’s words truly show how completely they love him. That is how we know we are living in him. Those who say they live in God should live their lives as Jesus did. 1 John 2:3-6 NLT

Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. Romans 8:5-6 NLT

If you listen to these commands of the Lord your God that I am giving you today, and if you carefully obey them, the Lord will make you the head and not the tail, and you will always be on top and never at the bottom. Romans 28:13 NLT

We are going to continue to have these struggles, however, it gets easier as you meditate on his Word and knowing that a moment of silence and a bit of self-control now will bring an abundance of blessings for just simply obeying.

Who will you let win these battles?



What makes you happy?

It’s easy to be happy when everything is going good. A lot of people, including myself at times, base their happiness on how everything around them is doing. If everything is fine with you and your spouse and kids, then you are fine. If everything’s a mess, then you are too.

This is one area in our walk of faith that is a bit tougher than others. What is going on around us shouldn’t be what our happiness is based on.

Most days my husband and I rarely get a conversation completed while the kids are still up. We try but it just doesn’t work out because we are having to talk over many loud and demanding distractions. Sometimes words are said to each other that are snappy and sometimes hurtful out of frustration from the craziness around us. It’s easy to let those things zap the happiness right out of us.

There are many movies, books, and even cartoons that show couples as having a fairytale ending. Truth is, if you work hard enough at your marriage you can have one too. Maybe not as those portrayed, but nevertheless a great one. Marriage is hard work that requires more than 50%, more than 100%, sometimes it demands 200% (that part where God gives us an extra measure of strength and patience). Too many times in the midst of our busy lives and the craziness around us we place a lot of unrealistic expectations on our spouse for them to ensure our happiness. When those expectations aren’t being met we let it effect our attitude and other areas of our lives. That’s when those less than nice attitudes and actions come out.

I have to remind myself that the center of my happiness comes from HIM not my husband and not me for him. We all make mistakes, fail, and disappoint. We are human and it’s going to happen, but our true happiness comes from the one who is always loving, supportive, and has our best interests at heart. I’m not saying we should always expect our spouses to fail us, but that when we face those less than fairytale situations, we are slow to anger, can forgive quicker, and persevere in those trying times.

Keep in mind that our husbands have expectations of us that we do not meet. It’s not one sided! We need to communicate about the expectations that we have of each other and make sure they’re God’s expectations of marriage and not the made up unachievable ones of our imaginations.

I am very blessed and really happy with the one I have to share my life with and when those trying times come along is when I need to remember that my expectations are set in HIM….

And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:19 NLT


It’s (not) My Birthday!

After seeing a sweet friend get flowers for her birthday yesterday I started thinking about how a birthday makes you feel. There is just something about the day of your birthday. It’s like something comes over us and nothing or no one can bring down this veil of pure happiness. I don’t know what it is, but you just feel like the queen of the world for a day.

Now I am not a scholar of the Bible, but the only mention of birthday celebrations in the Bible was that of Pharoah of Egypt. He prepared a banquet for all his officials and staff where we learn that after two of them had been thrown into prison with Joseph for quite some time, at the party, one was restored to his position as cup-bearer and the chief baker was hanged. Thankfully our celebrations don’t end so tragically, but we do let our happiness die out when our day is over.

Wouldn’t it be nice if every day was our birthday? Um, yeah! We see those who drive us crazy in a new light. Nothing they say will sour our day. When something doesn’t work out we have the most positive outlook that we will try again later and succeed.

Happiness is a feeling or emotion that will come and go. It is not something that will stick around. However, the Bible tells us to choose joy. We will have those days where everything seems to be working against us and we may not feel joyful, but joy is not dependent on our situations (Faith We may be facing difficult circumstances, but we can still experience joy.

For he will conceal me there when troubles come; he will hide me in his sanctuary. He will place me out of reach on a high rock. Then I will hold my head high above my enemies who surround me. At his santuary I will offer sacrifices with shouts of joy, singing and praising the Lord with music. Hear me as I pray, O Lord. Be merciful and answer me! Psalm 27:5-7 NIV

Choose joy no matter what or who you are facing.

What blessings await you when people hate you and exclude you and mock you and curse you as evil because you follow the Son of Man. When that happens, be happy! Yes, leap for joy! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, their ancestors treated the ancient prophets that same way. Luke 6: 22-23 NIV

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. James 1:2-4 NIV

Joy is a choice.

About a year ago, I came across a blog of Glizten Girl. Sara had a chronic illness where she was in constant pain all day, every day and was not able to leave her home because of it. I wish that everyone could hear her story. Sara reached out to others and supported and encouraged them instead of focusing on her very real and apparent daily struggles. She had an amazing way of telling how she chose joy. I encourage you to grab a tissue and check out her blog post about choosing an attitude of joy (here) and how she stayed so happy (here). She is no longer with us, but the legacy she left behind is something her friends and family would like to see shared. This is just a piece of her story:

I choose the joy. When something is going badly and I’m dwelling on it, I think
instead of something for which I am grateful. I swear to you, it’s as simple as
that. You just have to decide today, and again tomorrow. And before you know it,
you’ll have an attitude of joy more than any other attitude you have at your

I don’t always feel joyful when the kids are screaming nonstop, clothes are piled high, toys need picking up, or even when I can’t sit and watch a show without 50,000 interruptions. In the middle of it all, we have a choice.

I hope to always act like it’s my birthday and choose joy!


Live Each Day Like It’s Your Birthday!