So let me paint the scene from this morning for you. I was getting ready for church and a 90th birthday celebration. My dish was in the oven, clothes in the dryer, and all the boys were out feeding the cows. It was just me and the girls. I noticed that it was a little quiet, so the thought of them possibly being outside near the road sent me going through the house to check on them only to find them in the kitchen. They had pulled chairs up to the counter and had found the bowl of cereal my oldest had left on the counter. Of course, they did what any two year old would do! They were sticking daddy’s work keys in the milk and painting my Bible, the counter, and my phone with this fruit loop flavored milk. Needless to say after looking back on it my reaction was a “bit dramatic.”
Now don’t be shocked, I can’t believe that I’m on an island by myself with this. Surely you have had your moments that you are not proud of. I had scolded them and sent them running to the play room only to have Ella reaching for me to hold her. I wondered why she would want me to hold her when I just got on to her. Yet, I was relieved she doesn’t hate me. Can you believe, as I’m writing this right now, I had to stop and put the same child in time out for throwing a fit over a broken pop tart. Shall I say dramatic! 🙂 I know what you’re thinking. She probably learned her “dramatic” reactions from me. Sorry, but my scolding does not involve falling out kicking around in a circle on the floor and carrying on for ten minutes after. However, my snappy responses to their “adventures” are SOMETIMES less than what my vision of perfect parenting looks like.
Why is parenting so hard? I ask myself every day if I am ruining my children? Am I doing enough to lead them in the way the Lord requires of us as parents? The truth is…I’m not sure. We all know that these precious littles don’t come with a hand book. Yes, there are a vast amount of parenting books. Maybe I need to invest in some. I read several before they all came along, but since they arrived I’ve been kind of “winging” it. At least I can say we are happy, alive, and healthy. 🙂
It’s funny to think of how grandparents “parent” their grandchildren. They shower them with love and anything they want. I think they feel more free to do those things without the pressure of hoping they will be perfect. That’s where I think I fail as a parent. I want my kids to act perfect and do all the right things to impress others. You’re probably laughing right now, because you feel the same way. We need to take notice of grandparents. They have raised their children and they see now whats important. I
don’t think know they will not be getting everything they want, but I will be trying to show more love when they make mistakes.
Who wants to be scolded from our heavenly father every time we mess up? I mess up every day and sooner or later I would feel as though he will one day have enough. Thankfully we know what his word reminds us of in Psalm 86:15 NLT:
But you, O Lord, are a God of compassion and mercy, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness.
His mercy and grace NEVER runs out on us.
We I should look at his example towards us. He lovingly redirects us when we don’t make the right choices in our “adventures.”
Parenting is hard, it just is. But let’s not forget that…
Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
As I mess up I plan on letting my kids see and hear me ask for forgiveness from HIM and them. I will let my kids see how to learn from their mistakes because it’s through our example that they learn how to have a close relationship with the Father.
So, to answer my own question… the direction parents should be leading their kids is toward having a relationship with the one with unfailing love, mercy, and grace.